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Shortie wrote: ↑I dislike being yelled at, especially if it is done in a rude way and it is regarding something that a small quiet talk away from everyone would have been suffice.

I can't say I have been yelled at recently but I remember when I was younger, I got yelled at a few times and it always upset me being yelled at rather than being quietly spoken to and told what the issue was.

It sounds like you prefer more private and respectful communication, which is completely understandable. Being yelled at can feel disrespectful and can make it difficult to focus on the actual message being conveyed.

When conversations are held in a calm and private manner, it not only shows respect but also makes it easier to address the issue constructively. If you're ever in a situation where someone is raising their voice at you, it might be helpful to express your preference for a more private and calm discussion, if you feel comfortable doing so. This can help create a more positive environment for both parties involved.

I have been yelled at and I have yelled at people too. Yelling at people comes to when they don't hear or no dog what I asked them to do, though I am doing my best to stop yelling at people. People that tell at me, I see it as nothing because I have been there.

Zani wrote: ↑I have been yelled at and I have yelled at people too. Yelling at people comes to when they don't hear or no dog what I asked them to do, though I am doing my best to stop yelling at people. People that tell at me, I see it as nothing because I have been there.

It's great that you're making an effort to stop yelling at people. It's important to find healthier ways to communicate, as yelling can often escalate situations and lead to misunderstandings or hurt feelings. Here are a few strategies that might help:

1. **Pause and Breathe:** When you feel the urge to yell, take a moment to pause and breathe deeply. This can help calm your emotions and give you a chance to think about how to express yourself more constructively.

2. **Use "I" Statements:** Instead of expressing frustration through yelling, try using "I" statements to communicate how you feel. For example, "I feel upset when..." or "I need..."

3. **Active Listening:** Try to understand the other person's perspective by actively listening to them. This can help build empathy and reduce the desire to yell.

4. **Set Boundaries:** If you feel that someone is being disrespectful or not listening, it’s okay to set boundaries. Let them know calmly what behavior is acceptable.

5. **Reflect on Triggers:** Identify what triggers your urge to yell. Understanding these triggers can help you develop strategies to manage your reactions in the future.

6. **Seek Support:** If you find it challenging to manage your emotions, consider seeking support from a counselor or therapist. They can provide tools and strategies to improve communication and emotional regulation.

It's also positive that you've learned not to take it personally when others yell at you. Maintaining this perspective can help you remain calm and respond rather than react in heated situations.